(Tips for that great first experience!)
Good or bad, most of the things you experience for the first time is unforgettable. Every girl wants her first intimate experience to be something special and worth treasuring.
Unfortunately, great love making does not come with a manual. But don’t you worry. EHC brings you the first-time rocking tips that might help in ensuring that your first experience would be amazing.
No, this is not actually suggested to us by parents. It is the most important part of the whole ‘first time’ experience because not only does it keep unwanted pregnancies at bay, it also protects you from STDs. Though there is no such thing as a hundred percent safe play, you can always reduce the risks associated with it by following safety precautions. Make sure that your partner was free from sensually transmitted diseases, hepatitis B, AIDS, etc. Use condoms for safety if you have doubt.
If both of you are virgins, know that it will be awkward and not all that perfect. It will definitely feel good, but not all that great. It takes a while for two people to get into sync and know what the other one likes and does not. So ease into the situation, relax and enjoy each other. Don’t rush into the ‘penetration’ part of things. Also remember that if she backs out at the last moment, it is not that she doesn’t want you, it means that she is not yet ready. Think of it this way, if she is not comfortable, the whole process will not be fun for both of you.
Pain during your first time is normal. But remember that the pain is different for different women and anxiety about the pain just makes the situation worse. Moreover, the pain goes away after a short period of time and you will feel pleasure. So relax, enjoy the moment, and indulge in for play – lots of it. It not only heats up the moment, it also lubricates the female organ and makes penetration smoother and less painful. A dry organ can lead to painful bed play.
Before play is a Must
You need to have fun while you are at it. It can be anything from dirty talk to touching and kissing. Experiment with your boundaries and see what your partner likes. And don’t forget to tell him what you like, it will not only help guide him through the process, but it will definitely get him in the mood.
To Shower or Not
Should we both have a shower before/after play?’ – this question might worry you especially if you are first-timers. If you do it on the bed, know that you might have to change the sheets as there might be a bit of blood. If the sheets are not dirtied, there is no need to change them after you have had play. Also, a shower before getting into the action is a good idea. Not only will a hot shower help heat things up, it will also clean up your private parts and help both of you feel fresh. You may opt to have a shower after the act if you like, but remember to wash your genitals with warm water and soap after the act. This will keep any possible infections at bay.
Setting up the Mood
Get some nice pleasant and romantic music to intensify the mood. You can add a few scented candles and chocolate to the mix for that added effect. One of the best ways to spice things up is to encourage each other to express what they like and what they don’t – it is a great way to get the dirty talk going. More importantly don’t get swayed by what you see in porn or what your friends might tell you about the experience. Remember, everyone responds differently to different things, so pave your own path and make your own memories.
Do When Ready
Before anything else, you must also take readiness into consideration. Do you really want to do this for yourself, or are you just giving in to the pressure? You must make sure that you are not only physically, but also mentally and emotionally prepared.
First time it may be a bit scary or intimidating, but you must remember to breathe. Do not focus on just making your partner feel good. You must also learn how to get rid of all your inhibitions in order for you to enjoy the ride. Just breathe, and then let go.
It is not only about penetration. Everything you do, from befor play up to the act itself is all part of the intimate experience. Do not be afraid to explore your partner’s body and your body as well. There is no right or wrong move when it comes to being intimate. Everyone has his or her own style, and what works for someone would not automatically mean that it would work for others as well.
You must be very comfortable with your partner, to the point that you would not be afraid to express yourself. Feel free to tell him what feels good, and what would you want him to do. All first time play tips would tell you that communication is vital, and your partner would appreciate your feedback.
First time encounter is very intense and exciting, but it is also full of expectations. You are eager and nervous and this might backfire against the both of you. Your partner might have premature relax or lack of hardness. From your end, you might experience a lack of lubrication if your nerves work up against you. Free yourself from these expectations, and you are sure to have a better and enjoyable time.
Do Not Fake extreme pleasure
Studies show that most women do not reach extreme pleasure during their first encounter. Faking it would only make things worse and if you think about it, you are only cheating on yourself. Being able to attain it easily entails a lot of getting used to. Motivate your partner by letting him know that you are getting there and would want to get there with him.
The most important first time love-making tip every girl should know is that you need to be spontaneous. Being mindful of steps and procedures eventually ruins what could be a very special moment and makes it seem mechanical. Do not be afraid to express yourself and be passionate.