Here are seven of the most effective tools.
Deep breathing is a form of meditation that can sometimes help control the arousal and tension that lead to early flow. Try to see if he can avoid shallow, short breathing, which speeds up his heartbeat and can trigger EE.
Try to get him to spend five seconds breathing in one deep, full breath, hold it for about three seconds, and then exhale for five seconds. If he can do this for about five minutes without breaking the rhythm, he may be able to use it in the bedroom. Plus, focusing on each other’s breathing, and how it rises and falls, can build an intimate connection.
The Stop-and-Start Method
This begins as a solo exercise. Your partner should begin by enjoying alone, bringing himself close to top point and stopping. After relaxing, he should continue bringing himself closer and closer to supreme pleasure until he can’t hold it any longer. (Doing this several times by himself without distraction will help him learn where his point of no return is.) When he feels that he has mastered the technique, the two of you should engage in activity that stops short of real play.
The Squeeze Method
This method requires one of you to squeeze the base of the organ at the same point that the stop-and-start technique would be used, when he is at the brink of pleasure. The idea is to reduce your partner’s strenth through squeezing. Just as with the stop-and-start method, your partner should do it on his own first, master it, and then invite you to practice the technique with him.
Kegels aren’t just for women. There’s no better method to strengthen the pelvic region than to create a strong pubococcygeus muscle (PC muscle), which can help control flow. The easiest way for him to find this muscle is to see if he can stop the flow of urine when he goes to the bathroom. It’s the PC muscle that he uses to do that. Once he finds it, he needs to practice feeling exactly where it is located and make sure he engages it, rather than using his abdominals,back, or thighs. (These must all stay loose when doing Kegel exercises.) To do Kegels, he will quickly clench and release the PC muscle repeatedly for ten seconds. He should do three sets, with a ten-second break between sets. If he contracts his PC muscle when he’s close to peak pleasure, he should be able to slow things down.
Play that is truly explorative is more than just traditional physical pleasure. Try using the tantric techniques of establishing an intimate connection, including when he’s nearing the point of no return. When he approaches that point, he should cease stimulation (i.e., pull out), then contract the PC muscle and lower his chin to his chest (this is important, as it prevents energy from rising too high and making him feel ungrounded). He should then draw in a breath, feeling the warmth of energy rise upwards in his body. Repeat this as needed, until the desire to release is no longer urgent.
Covering With Benzocaine
The results vary, but climax-control coverings can extend activity and delay a male’s top pleasure as long as five minutes. These coverings have benzocaine in the tip; it’s a mild anesthetic with a slight numbing effect, so it can help to decrease his pleasure sensation and bring his response down to a more manageable level. Don’t worry, he can still enjoy the act! And while he doesn’t need the protective benefits of a covering during self doing, he can try using the coverings in a solo session to see if they help to prolong and control his excitement.
Play with your Body Weight
When you feel like you’re about to top point, stop the motions, and just hold still. Don’t put your weight on your partner, but lift yourself just a little bit, so your focus is on controlling your body weight and not on your organ.
If you are relatively young, then you can probably another strength in a while after premature flow. And the second time around, you would find it a lot easier to control your top point. Or you could also have a small encounter with yourself or with your partner’s help, a couple of hours before actually having an intimate session. But if you’re an older man, this strategy might be too much of a pain, and this could even result in you losing your confidence.
The man-on-top (missionary) position can be fun, but it’s harder for most men to control their flow timing, because they have to hold themselves up. Try making love with the woman on top. This position is more relaxing for men, and it often helps flow control.
Make some noise. Love moans help men (and women) relax, and they often help men last longer.
Indulge in Fore play
Men know that women love leisurely, playful, whole-body, massage-oriented sensuality. But men hardly feel that is required however much they pretend like they share the same thought. But when a man rushes into making love, there is a lot of pressure on his manhood as all the energy is focused only on that region. If you could actually indulge in a whole body experience, the arousal would be all over and would help you last longer.
With these tips, you should be able to hold on a lot longer, and yet, have a great time in bed with your partner.
And remember, premature flow is more of a worry in the bigger head than in the smaller head. Try to relax your mind when you’re in bed, and the rest of your body will relax too.