Tips for wives to find husband’s affair
Men seldom get satisfied with one partner. The physical and mental nature of men tempts them always to strive for more. Thus, comparably, men are found to get into more number of affairs than women. An extramarital affair of a husband can spoil the entire harmony of the family life.
When the husband falls into an affair it serves as the starting point of all the common issues at home. It is the responsibility of wives to turn back their husbands into the family again by helping him to leave away the extra affairs. There are many things a wife can do to help husband with this purpose. First of all let us see how to know if your husband is having an affair.
1) Slight or complete change in behavior
If you feel that there are certain changes in the behavior of your husband then probably he is in an affair. When he gets angry very often for no reason; when he doesn’t show as interest in family matters as earlier; when you feel the warmth of relationship less intense, then perhaps your husband might have fallen in an affair.
2) Less time spend with the family
Many husbands, when in an affair, reduce the time spend with the family. It is when the person feels less interest in the wife of current family life, that he gets into affairs. Keeping secrets
3) A person with an extramarital affair may tend to keep secrets from the wife. He may not want wife to know every occurrence in his life and prefers being alone than being with the wife. Most often the guilt feeling in the subconscious mind prompts them to stay away from the wife and holdback the secrets from her.
4) Suspicious phone calls
Cell phone conversation of the husband helps many wives to identify if the husband is in an affair. Observe the mode and modulation of your husband’s telephone conversation. If he disconnects the phone or change the topic as soon as he sees you, then you can suspect him having an affair.Try to find out if he have a second phone.
5) Immediate trips or late night arrival
When your husband goes for trips so often which were not pre-planned or pre-informed, then possibly, he may have an affair. It is only the wife can recognize such behavior changes of husband. If you observe that from a time onwards the husband starts arriving late at home habitually, then he can be suspected for an affair.
6) Unnecessary explanations
Husbands with an affair are found to get into the habit of giving unnecessary explanation for each and every instance in life.
7) Listening to the instincts
Behavior experts say that listening to the instincts is the best way of understanding if the husband is proceeding with an affair along with the family life. A wife being the person, who knows the husband completely, can very well understand even a slight change in his life.
8) “I Love You But I’m Not In Love With You.”
If you hear these words, a big warning bell should go off. This is one of the most consistent things a cheating spouse will say. Your spouse may have a deep, loving bond with you but, intense feelings of passion can override the bond with you and cause your spouse to lose sight of his true feelings.
9) “We are just friends.”
This is also another very predictable statement that will come from a cheating husband. If your spouse is spending more and more time with this new “friend”; then there is probably more to it than mere friendship.
10) A sudden need for privacy.
If things the two of you used to share openly suddenly become private pay attention cause something is probably up. He/she may start password protecting computer activity. Cell phone and credit card bills may be hidden. If you ask why or attempt to find out information that used to be common knowledge between the two of you, you will be accused of snooping or trying to control your spouse.
11) Spending a large amount of time on the computer.
In today’s world, with modern technology, a person looking for an affair doesn’t even have to leave their home. The ease of internet chat rooms, online dating sites and secret email accounts has caused an alarming increase in emotional affairs.
If your spouse is online more than usual, hanging out in chat rooms and visiting pornographic websites then you have reason to be alarmed.
12) Your Own fears and suspicions
If you find yourself looking for excuses for your husband’s behavior or trying to convince yourself that they would never cheat then that is a warning sign. Your intuition is frequently one of the best indicators that something is wrong. It is a sad fact that people having affairs become excellent liars. People who never told a lie before in their lives. Trust your gut instinct but get hard, cold proof also.