Love & Intimacy

She Loves Me. She Loves Me Not. How to Find Out?

she loves me, she love me not

We know it would be a lot easier if your female friend would just walk up to you, rip off your shirt and declare her feelings. Unfortunately 99% of women don’t do that.

On the other hand, a lot of boys get their hearts broken because they ask a girl out and they say no. Have a crush on a girl but not sure if the feeling is mutual? Or maybe you’re curious as to whether that girl checking you out is doing so out because of a genuine interest in you. As a principle, girls don’t like making the first move. So, without much options left, you have to make the first move. But, how do you make sure she likes you? Here are some tips on how to know if your crush likes you back!

Her eyes may reveal a lot.  If she is interested, she will generally make eye contact. When she talks to you, look into her eyes and seem interested. Her eyebrow may even lift as she watches you. She may not be able to look you straight in the eye and she might giggle a lot because she is worried about giving too much away.

Observe her. If she likes you, she will tend to either hold her gaze on you for a long time or pull away immediately the moment your eyes make contact with hers. Either of these responses could mean that she likes you. If she pulls away quickly, it often means she is nervous or not ready to reveal her true intentions yet, but she still likes you. And if she holds the stare, and you believe you see responsiveness or even love in her eyes, then she is confident and she may make the first move.

Hold eye contact! If she looks back just a fraction of a second longer than anyone else would, then this probably means she likes you!

She gets jealous when she sees you with other girls. If you are friends with the girl and notice signs of jealousy when you talk with other girls, then please go ahead and try taking your relationship to the next level. She may even try to distract or interrupt you when she sees you with other girls.

Check for the smile. A girl who is interested in you will usually immediately smile when you start a conversation with her. The smile may disappear quickly if she’s shy, but it’s hard to hide an unexpected strong emotion.

She is conscious of her looks when you are around. If a girl likes you she tries to be at her best when you are around. She would normally be well groomed and looking beautiful than she looks normally. You may even notice her touching her hair, neck, lips or clothing when she is in front of you.

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She remembers your special days. If a girl likes you she would make sure that she remembers your birthday or may even get you a gift. If she comes to know about an achievement you made she would immediately call you and congratulate you. She may even ask you for a party from you as an excuse to see you. She may even buy you small gifts for no reason at all.

She would go out of her way to help you. If a woman likes you she may go out of the way to be helpful to you when you have a problem or when you need help. She always would have a word of encouragement or support when you are feeling low. If she comes to know that you are sick she might call you immediately or even visit you because she is concerned about you.

She laughs at your jokes. If a girl likes you she may even laugh or giggle at your normally boring or stupidest of all jokes. If her smile is a fake or polite one or if she frowns and looks away she is not interested in you.

Does she tease you? Like, poke you or call you pet names? This could be a positive sign. But, some girls simply just won’t tease who they like. If a girl says “awwww” after you do something, it is also a sign that she is trying to flirt with you.

She brags about you. If a girl likes you, it is quite natural for her to talk about you to her close friends. Sometimes you may notice her friends teasing her when they spot you or other friends glancing back at you and smiling or giggling which may mean that she was telling her friends about you. When you come near to her she might stop talking all of a sudden which can mean that you were the subject of the recently ended conversation.

Does she come to you with all of her problems? If she does, that means she trusts you and knows you’ll listen. So when she comes to you and says something like a personal problem, don’t roll your eyes because this is a turn-off with girls.

She introduces you to her friends and family. If a girl likes you she would not have problems with others seeing her with you. She may even introduce you to her friends or family or even brag about you to them. If she likes you she would be honest in her opinions and instead of passing flattering complements may tell you things or habits you need to change in order to be a better person without insulting you.

She mimics you and your actions. If there is a liking then you may be able to detect signs of mimicking. In fact this is an unconscious thing and indication that she is interested. Some examples for this can be taking a drink together or leaning back against the chair at the same time.

You may meet her accidentally very often. When a girl likes you she may try to frequent places you go often or find some reason to be in places where you go to so that she would be able to see you. She may even find stupid reasons to talk to you or try to be around you as much as she can.

She likes talking and spending time with you. If a girl likes you she will not refuse an opportunity to see you or talk to you. She always would find an excuse to talk with you or spend time with you. When you talk she listens to you with interest and tries to gather more information about you. If she participates in the conversation, gives long answers and asks you questions in response it is a positive sign. She would gaze at you and smile often when you are with her or lean close when speaking to you. You may even notice that her eyes lit up when she notices you around.

She touches you often. If the girl touches you often while you are talking or walking together or does not move away when you accidentally brush up against her or intentionally touch her, she may like you.

She talks of a future together. If a girl likes you when she talks about her future she may mention you in it. She may even share her long-term dreams or aspirations with you.

She is comfortable with you: If a girl feels comfortable and secured in your company, in all probability she likes you. If she is feeling threatened or trying to avoid meeting you or spending time with you she may not like you. If she feels comfortable and secured she would be herself around you and without pretences and would be comfortable talking to you about almost anything. She may even not hesitate to ask you out on a date.

When you are both in a room – if she sits diagonally from you or across from you at the room, when she’s interested, her torso is facing you in an open manner, or her shoulders and hips are facing you. Either of these signs may mean she likes you. When she is sitting and she has her legs crossed, if her feet is pointed towards you, it might mean that she likes you and wants to get closer to you. Look at her lips. If she touches them constantly or bites them, she’s probably very interested in you. If her lip quivers slightly when you look at her, you can almost be sure she likes you.

All girls are different, so be aware of the signs. Listen to the tone of her voice. If she is shy, the tone of her voice might be a little softer than normal, and she might start to play with her hair (smoothing it down, twirling, flipping, etc.), adjusting her clothes, and might stare at you.

Smile at her. Girls tend to like guys who smile, and are happy. Use your natural smile; you don’t want to freak her out. If she smiles back politely, or frowns and looks away, she may be uncomfortable or disinterested. If she returns a soft or big smile and continues to look at you, then it’s likely that she’s interested. However she reacts, it cannot hurt to keep smiling her way. Eventually she’ll get the message that you find her charming and she may feel able to open up more or at least to tell you openly that she’s either interested or not.

Chivalry pays! If you ever like a girl, just go up and tell her the truth. Girls like it when a guy says what’s on his mind honestly and truthfully. Who knows, she may like you too!

Now, what are you waiting for? Run and tell her what’s in your mind.

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